Recently, I did an interview with ‘The Everyday People of Singapore‘. And in the interview, I was asked to share a ‘life-defining/changing’ moment. And I thought, that was perfect since that moment for me, was related to academics – something that everyone in Singapore goes through.
In the interview, I shared my story on failure, redemption, and the beginning of my journey. For everyone wondering what got me doing the things that I do currently, the article written by them, is a great introduction to that. If you have yet to see it, check it out here:
MY THOUGHTS ON THE INTERVIEW
Firstly, I would like to thank my man, Arman Shah, the founder of ‘The Everyday People of Singapore‘ . This man is a talented writer, content-creator, and a hustler with a humble heart. Thank you once again, for giving me this opportunity to share my story with others.
Next, as you may have read in the write-up, it talks about the experiences I’ve gone through. And I decided, to further elaborate on them in this blog post sharing the main learning points so that you may receive takeaways and not just read another story on someone.
This article begins with failure.
I came from a household where excellence and perfection are greatly commemorated. Hence, it was ingrained in me to strive for excellence and expect perfection. But as we already know, I achieved way below the expectation for my ‘O’ Levels. (For my non-singaporean readers, ‘O’ Levels is basically the super important exam for secondary school/high school) This was a huge failure to me.
However, failure is crucial for success. (I know it sounds cliche but it is true) Without failure, we never learn. For me, this was a lesson learned that I needed to work hard and get my priorities fixed.
Reflection is important as it was when I was in a state of defeat where I took the time of solitude and reflection to think about what it is I’ve done wrong and how I could do better.
You already know it, man. Just don’t give up.
4. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
Always believe in yourself. If you don’t, you already lost.
Nothing worth having comes easy. If you wanna achieve something you need to put in the work.
6. TRUST THE PROCESS (PATIENCE)
Some things take time. I was busting my ass doing all that work but I was not getting the results early on. I trusted the process and kept working.
For someone who hates studying, you can imagine how much I would rather be spending my time doing other things. But, I still forced my self to do the right thing when it needs to be done.
8. START SMALL
I started studying 30mins a day and gradually increased it to 6 hours and I even studied more than 11 hours before. This technique of starting small is key.
9. SELF MOTIVATION
It’s easy to show up and put in the work when you’re fired up. But it’s when times get tough and the motivation runs out where you need to motivate yourself to stay the course.
10. SELF EDUCATION
If you don’t know something, go and get your answers. Self-teaching is an important skill as I’ve learned, based on my experience.
10. FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Treasure your family and friends.
When I was trying to find my next school after receiving the bad results, my mother was the one helping me out traveling with me to the different tertiary schools sending in appeals. My uncle was the one who adviced and encouraged me. My church friends supported me. My classmates and friends (Elton, Shaun Shu, Sam Panda & others) helped me in my studies and kept each other accountable.
My teachers (Mr. Vincent Lai, Ms. Kevina Joe, Mr. Benedict Tan, Mr. Timoty Lim & others) went the extra mile to help me out. Of course, there are many other people who I have not mentioned but I truly appreciate everyone’s support.
My achievement is dependent on this community of friends and family for which I am thankful for.
Be self-aware. Know your strengths, your weaknesses, your passions, your purpose and align everything based on them.
I am someone who dislikes all these subjects taught in school and you already know, am not a genius when it comes to them. But applying all the points shared earlier, I am still able to pass pretty decently.
What more if we applied the same principles on things we are passionate about. Can you imagine the things we can achieve? #stayhuslingmyfriends
Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.